Some thoughts and ideas.
I have always thought of myself as someone who could read people and understand the inter-workings of a person's brain better than most. As of late, humanity has confused me more than ever before. I do not know why this is, nor do I wish to know, because it may be of some fault of my own and human nature is forcing me to erase it from my head. It may be that I am living in another country, but I doubt it.
People are so diverse. This is a well-known idea. We are told from an early age to travel and expand our minds to embrace cultures of all kinds. We are told to live in someone else's shoes and wear their soles down with a smile on our face. What we are not told is how much this will change us. How much these people's ideas and struggles will infect us. How much their ideas will give us wings and help us survive.
Let me explain. Diversity does not always have to do with the color of someone's skin, it also has to do with a person's thoughts and most importantly the thoughts that they choose to act on. How they were raised and how they choose to live their lives now. A person is made up from a list of choices they have made throughout their lives.
So, when someone is struggling with something in their life, why do we always assume that they should handle it in the same way as us? Why should we assume that this person should be as strong as we have always been throughout our life? Why do we compare ourselves to how strong we perceive another person to act within their own life? I hear the phrase, "But it's nothing compared to what you have to deal with," all the time. I believe that people are only given what they can handle. So, whether someone is destroyed after a bad grade or being rejected by a man they had on their heart, or whether they suffer from depression or their parent is an alcoholic, we find that ALL people struggle. And to any one of those people, today might be when they make the decision to give up.
This brings me to my next point. People are so similar. This idea is also well known, but no one tells us that when we walk in someone else's shoes that the soles may already be formed to our feet. I found through meeting friends here that people all struggle with the same things as I do. We struggle with trust, with letting go of the past, with heartache, with guilt, with unrequited love, and largely with a fear of people knowing who we really are, which is why we find it hard to tell people about our pains. We may handle it differently, but it is usually stemming the the same thing... a lack of love, hope, and faith (trust).
This brings me back to what I was saying before. I feel like I can read people well, I am guessing this is because of the similarity of people in general. A smile is a smile in every language, but so is a hidden look of grief and a hopeful glance. Although, that is just the surface. To go deeper, we understand that people everywhere are hiding their diversity; we put on make-up to hide our scars and we avert our hearts when someone asks if we are okay... or anytime someone tries to get to know us on a deeper level. Understanding this has taught me that sometimes my readings of people cannot be assumed. Now, I know this because no one's readings of me can be assumed. I am one of the millions that hide my deeper layers.
I guess the idea here is that we cannot assume that the front someone puts on day to day is really what they are like. We can't assume that the shy girl can't spit out the best jokes you've never heard. All we can assume is that if we love someone fully, as much as we can on that particular day, we will make an impression. This is the similarity...Love. Love people. It will give them hope. It will give them faith. Not everyone is the same, but then again sometimes we are. The differences are just in our choices; choices to give love, choices to accept love, and choices to accept people for EVERYTHING that they are. The phrase, "Don't frown, because someone could be falling in love with your smile," is damaging. We should love people's frowns as well as their smiles. Here is another idea... we should love our own frowns as much as our smiles as well. Frowning is not a weakness or something to be hidden, The fact that you are human and you fall, but that's okay. You are stronger from it... and I love you for it